Ask yourself, Which is more important to you: to hold onto your anger, resentment, and hurt, or to experience peace? To hold on to the idea that the other person is wrong, or to let go and start loving yourself? A wonderful thing happens when you start loving yourself: You start loving your enemy simultaneously.
When you try to change another, and you think you have succeeded, the only thing you have succeeded in is bloating your own ego. It's a matter of having control over another, is it not?
You bless your enemy by thinking well of yourself, because doing that changes your whole perception of everyone else.
To bless your enemy: See your enemy the way your enemy would be if he were not your enemy. See that person as your friend. Whether that person changes outwardly or not doesn't matter, because you have changed within. You are now at peace, and you are flooded by feelings of well being.
